5 Tips for Banishing Jealousy
The green eyed monster, as jealousy is commonly called, is powerful and vengeful. It’s never stronger than when it occurs in our romantic relationships. It can cause heartache, pain, humiliation, suffering, loss of appetite, even anxiety attacks. Often separation and/or divorce follow meekly in this beast’s wake. This is one bad dude to have around.
So how do you get rid of such a thing? Is there some secret spell you need to chant to make it go away? Some powerful and mysterious ancient stone to raise a shield? No. The answer is really quite simple. To banish the green eyed monster, you need to have faith in yourself. This is the foundation for any and all relationships, including the most important one: yourself.
Simple yes?
Humans are wired to be envious. It’s in our DNA. Who hasn’t looked at their best friend’s model companion and thought, “Wow, I wish Mr. Gorgeous or Ms. Beautiful was with me. So lucky! I’m so jealous!” This is a normal response.
However, the problems occur when The Green Eyed Monster starts interfering with our daily lives and making our relationships miserable. We also have the urges for anger, greed, and laziness in our DNA. It doesn’t mean we have to let them control us. Taking control of our emotions, being in charge, and confident is the hardest, most stressful and most vital fight you will ever fight.
Rarely does this monster travel alone. Often Despair, Mistrust, and Anger travel right along side, adding their ‘two cents’ and egging our thoughts, words, and actions we may otherwise have not taken. Below are a few tips to help you slay this beast (and its accompanying pals) for good.
Believe
Trust is the most essential part of any relationship. Without it, there can be no relationship, regardless how strong love is. You have to trust your partner is telling the truth when he says he doesn’t want anyone else but you. Look at it this way: You think he’s amazing, awesome, incredible. And he’s with you. You must be pretty amazing, awesome and incredible too!
If you find you have troubles with belief, especially when it comes to your partner being interested solely in you, perhaps it’s time for a bit of guided self hypnosis. While many people think jealousy is simply human nature, there is always a basis for why you have this jealousy. And getting to the root of why can make all the difference in understanding and slaying the green eyed monster.
During hypnosis, your subconscious mind will let you know the real reason behind your insecurity. Are you afraid the relationship will end? Do you feel ‘not good enough’? What is the true reason for your jealousy? And how is your sub consciousness guiding you in ways you didn’t even realize?
There’s no problem too great your mind and body together can not overcome. You simply have to get them together. Plus, with hypnosis, your subconscious can be guided to also strengthening your belief in yourself, your partner, and your relationship. Mind body connection is a critical part of all healthy relationships and being at peace with your life choices.
Entertain…
The idea you are a wonderful person and deserve a healthy, happy relationship. Like mentioned above, your wonderful partner wants *you*. So that says a lot about you as a person and as the ‘other half’. You deserve to be happy and with someone who thinks the sun rises and sets upon you. If jealous is a big part of your relationship, the sun hasn’t rose. It set long ago.
Everywhere you look or travel, there will always be someone thinner, or prettier, or younger, or funnier. It’s a simple fact of life. But the old clichés about ‘beauty fades’ are true. Do you really want to be with someone simply because he only thinks you’re pretty and not funny, intelligent and or great to be around? What happens in ten years when you age as all of us do? Beauty is a by product. It’s an accessory, like shoes or a purse or a wallet. Your partner is with you for more than that. Or should be.
Hold your head high. Jealousy can’t lurk when you are strong in yourself and also strong in your relationship. Slay that beast with some good old fashioned self confidence.
How? Get in touch, again, with your sub conscious and find out what’s really going on in your mind. There’s a reason you don’t feel worthy. There’s a reason you are insecure. And there IS a way to banish those, just as there’s a way to banish jealousy.
Anti Relationship
In the Star Wars movies, they speak often of the Force. Jealousy and hate are said to be of the ‘dark side’. There’s also a line which states, “You must be willing to release that to which you cling.” Sounds like Yoda confusion talk, yes? But it’s actually great advice.
If you find yourself holding so tight to someone you are consumed by the green eyed monster the moment someone else looks at him/her or wondering every minute he/she is away from you what is happening, who he/she is talking to, what he/she is doing, that’s obsession, not love. And obsession is the path to the dark side (to continue in the Star Wars vein). Obsession only makes jealousy grow stronger.
You have to willing to say, believe, and know if this relationship doesn’t work, it’s not meant to work. Love is a grand and wonderous gift. But if you try to strangle hold it, it will die quicker than an ice cube melting in the July sun. Love has to have some freedom. No other person should ever be your whole world. Neither of you can truly grow that way.
If this person isn’t ‘the one’, you need to search for another. Release and see what happens. You may be surprised in how the green eyed monster slinks away.
Steadfast
And true. Have you ever heard that saying? It essentially means you need to always be upfront and honest. All the time. Jealousy thrives in lies, discontent and dishonesty. There’s no quicker way to end a relationship than by game playing with your partner’s feelings.
So resist the temptation to ‘let him/her see how it feels’ and try to make him/her jealous. All you will accomplish is looking like an idiot and jerk. No one deserves to be treated in any way less than you want to be treated yourself. Open communication is the best and only true way to know exactly what is going on with your partner’s thoughts and feelings.
Stay steadfast. You know what you want and need. Be who and what you are. Acceptance should always come for your true self, not an idealized version. If the relationship is not working out it’s not meant to be. You matter most. Stay steadfast and true to you.
Take the Lead
At the first signs of unease and jealousy, take the lead and begin a frank open discussion with your partner. If you are afraid to talk to him/her about your feelings, that’s a red flag in your relationship. Sometimes, all we need is to hear what the other person is feeling and thinking to be able to adapt and cope. Your partner may actually be clueless why you are so jealous.
If you still feel jealous and uneasy after you and your partner talk, you may want to seek a trained professional’s assistance. Many a relationship has been saved with the help of a neutral presence.
Use Your Imagination
Jealousy is an emotion coming from the subconscious mind. So, stepping into hypnosis is an effective way to imagine yourself being a new way and re-write and over-ride those old reactions and feelings. Many people do this more effectively with expert guidance and you can find professional hypnosis mp3s at www.HypnosisFirst.com to help you to become the you that is confident and can let go of jealousy forever.
The green eyed monster, as jealousy is commonly called, is powerful and vengeful. It’s never stronger than when it occurs in our romantic relationships. It can cause heartache, pain, humiliation, suffering, loss of appetite, even anxiety attacks. Often separation and/or divorce follow meekly in this beast’s wake. This is one bad dude to have around.
So how do you get rid of such a thing? Is there some secret spell you need to chant to make it go away? Some powerful and mysterious ancient stone to raise a shield? No. The answer is really quite simple. To banish the green eyed monster, you need to have faith in yourself. This is the foundation for any and all relationships, including the most important one: yourself.
Simple yes?
Humans are wired to be envious. It’s in our DNA. Who hasn’t looked at their best friend’s model companion and thought, “Wow, I wish Mr. Gorgeous or Ms. Beautiful was with me. So lucky! I’m so jealous!” This is a normal response.
However, the problems occur when The Green Eyed Monster starts interfering with our daily lives and making our relationships miserable. We also have the urges for anger, greed, and laziness in our DNA. It doesn’t mean we have to let them control us. Taking control of our emotions, being in charge, and confident is the hardest, most stressful and most vital fight you will ever fight.
Rarely does this monster travel alone. Often Despair, Mistrust, and Anger travel right along side, adding their ‘two cents’ and egging our thoughts, words, and actions we may otherwise have not taken. Below are a few tips to help you slay this beast (and its accompanying pals) for good.
Believe
Trust is the most essential part of any relationship. Without it, there can be no relationship, regardless how strong love is. You have to trust your partner is telling the truth when he says he doesn’t want anyone else but you. Look at it this way: You think he’s amazing, awesome, incredible. And he’s with you. You must be pretty amazing, awesome and incredible too!
If you find you have troubles with belief, especially when it comes to your partner being interested solely in you, perhaps it’s time for a bit of guided self hypnosis. While many people think jealousy is simply human nature, there is always a basis for why you have this jealousy. And getting to the root of why can make all the difference in understanding and slaying the green eyed monster.
During hypnosis, your subconscious mind will let you know the real reason behind your insecurity. Are you afraid the relationship will end? Do you feel ‘not good enough’? What is the true reason for your jealousy? And how is your sub consciousness guiding you in ways you didn’t even realize?
There’s no problem too great your mind and body together can not overcome. You simply have to get them together. Plus, with hypnosis, your subconscious can be guided to also strengthening your belief in yourself, your partner, and your relationship. Mind body connection is a critical part of all healthy relationships and being at peace with your life choices.
Entertain…
The idea you are a wonderful person and deserve a healthy, happy relationship. Like mentioned above, your wonderful partner wants *you*. So that says a lot about you as a person and as the ‘other half’. You deserve to be happy and with someone who thinks the sun rises and sets upon you. If jealous is a big part of your relationship, the sun hasn’t rose. It set long ago.
Everywhere you look or travel, there will always be someone thinner, or prettier, or younger, or funnier. It’s a simple fact of life. But the old clichés about ‘beauty fades’ are true. Do you really want to be with someone simply because he only thinks you’re pretty and not funny, intelligent and or great to be around? What happens in ten years when you age as all of us do? Beauty is a by product. It’s an accessory, like shoes or a purse or a wallet. Your partner is with you for more than that. Or should be.
Hold your head high. Jealousy can’t lurk when you are strong in yourself and also strong in your relationship. Slay that beast with some good old fashioned self confidence.
How? Get in touch, again, with your sub conscious and find out what’s really going on in your mind. There’s a reason you don’t feel worthy. There’s a reason you are insecure. And there IS a way to banish those, just as there’s a way to banish jealousy.
Anti Relationship
In the Star Wars movies, they speak often of the Force. Jealousy and hate are said to be of the ‘dark side’. There’s also a line which states, “You must be willing to release that to which you cling.” Sounds like Yoda confusion talk, yes? But it’s actually great advice.
If you find yourself holding so tight to someone you are consumed by the green eyed monster the moment someone else looks at him/her or wondering every minute he/she is away from you what is happening, who he/she is talking to, what he/she is doing, that’s obsession, not love. And obsession is the path to the dark side (to continue in the Star Wars vein). Obsession only makes jealousy grow stronger.
You have to willing to say, believe, and know if this relationship doesn’t work, it’s not meant to work. Love is a grand and wonderous gift. But if you try to strangle hold it, it will die quicker than an ice cube melting in the July sun. Love has to have some freedom. No other person should ever be your whole world. Neither of you can truly grow that way.
If this person isn’t ‘the one’, you need to search for another. Release and see what happens. You may be surprised in how the green eyed monster slinks away.
Steadfast
And true. Have you ever heard that saying? It essentially means you need to always be upfront and honest. All the time. Jealousy thrives in lies, discontent and dishonesty. There’s no quicker way to end a relationship than by game playing with your partner’s feelings.
So resist the temptation to ‘let him/her see how it feels’ and try to make him/her jealous. All you will accomplish is looking like an idiot and jerk. No one deserves to be treated in any way less than you want to be treated yourself. Open communication is the best and only true way to know exactly what is going on with your partner’s thoughts and feelings.
Stay steadfast. You know what you want and need. Be who and what you are. Acceptance should always come for your true self, not an idealized version. If the relationship is not working out it’s not meant to be. You matter most. Stay steadfast and true to you.
Take the Lead
At the first signs of unease and jealousy, take the lead and begin a frank open discussion with your partner. If you are afraid to talk to him/her about your feelings, that’s a red flag in your relationship. Sometimes, all we need is to hear what the other person is feeling and thinking to be able to adapt and cope. Your partner may actually be clueless why you are so jealous.
If you still feel jealous and uneasy after you and your partner talk, you may want to seek a trained professional’s assistance. Many a relationship has been saved with the help of a neutral presence.
Use Your Imagination
Jealousy is an emotion coming from the subconscious mind. So, stepping into hypnosis is an effective way to imagine yourself being a new way and re-write and over-ride those old reactions and feelings. Many people do this more effectively with expert guidance and you can find professional hypnosis mp3s at www.HypnosisFirst.com to help you to become the you that is confident and can let go of jealousy forever.
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